Guys – if you’re sending Pokes to strangers on Facebook just because you think their profile picture is attractive, you’re being creepy. And if we’re going to give it the Brad test – yes it’s still creepy if your profile picture looks like Brad Pitt – because no one is going to believe that is you. Even if it is you. Sorry Brad, guess you’re stuck with Angelina.
Let’s face it, the chances that you can randomly poke a stranger on Facebook and get a positive response is probably 10,000 to one. Well, what’s the harm, right? Wrong. It’s like spam and, also like spam, you can pick up a reputation. Eventually you’ll poke girls who know each other. Yeah, they’ll talk. You’re name will be added to “the list”.
It’s easy to think of a poke as giving a girl a friendly smile at a bar but nothing could be further from the truth. Social media is many things, but an equal substitute for physical human interactions it is not. If you wanna poke a stranger with the hopes of gittin’ sum, stick to the dating sites, where you’re expected to be looking for a date.
Another similar creepy activity is Liking every post and comment a woman makes. Sorry, but no one, myself included, deserves to have every post and every comment liked. You’re not being subtle. It’s clear to every single person on Facebook that your desperate and creepy. You’re not a puppy. Puppies can like everything you do – you’re a god to them. Don’t be a puppy. If a girl wants a puppy she’ll go to the shelter or call up her ex from high school.
But how do you meet someone new on Facebook? You’ve heard it happens to other people. Why can’t it happen to you?
It can. I’ve dated women I met initially on Facebook. It takes time, though. Whether you’re in a common Facebook group, commenting on some of the same pages regularly, or maybe you’ve already become Facebook friends because of a shared acquaintance, just take the time to get to know her – note the tone of her posts and her interests and let her do the same with you. It can happen, but it will happen when you become real people to each other and not just a profile pic of someone who vaguely looks like you.
Until you go beyond the profile pic and can relate to each other as actual people, you’re just going to be the creepy guy. Don’t be the creepy guy.
Steve is the founder of Straight Talk Entertainment and currently produces and writes for the audio drama Aural Traditions, recently voted Charleston City Paper’s Best Local Podcast. He’s also an Information Security professional and avid shark tooth hunter.